Let’s talk about what many of us wonder and ponder about:
how to stop perpetuating struggle and hardship and be in tune with the flow of life.
How to live with ease, the way we were meant to be: happy, healthy, fulfilled and comfortable in life.
When we are small children, before we learn from others that their happiness depends on anything else but their innate joy of life – we are naturally happy. Small children, unless hungry, ill or hurt in any way – usually wake up smiling, and welcome each day with natural curiosity and passion.
Then, step-by-step, their environment begins to change their point of view, imprinting in them a set of conditions, rules, expectations and demands. The child quickly learns that if he/she does not comply, the appreciation for the child, or even sometimes love, is withdrawn.
Together with the set of rules about how to behave, what’s good and what’s wrong, what’s desirable and what’s despicable – comes a set of labels:
– “You are good, you are bad. You are black, you are white, you’re a boy, a girl, you’re awful, short, small, too young, too old, too skinny, too fat, too dumb, too stupid.”
In other words: – “Do as I told you, be as I told you. You are not good enough and I am better than you.”
Of course, we begin to believe that we are not allowed to be who we are because we are not good enough. And – that we are not worthy of having the life we want: that is happy, healthy, fulfilled and, at least in some way, comfortable, if not wealthy.
We all want to live a happy life, and only the details vary from person to person – depending on our preferences, talents, passions or interests.
Although we often have many opportunities to build such a life, we either don’t follow them, not believing in ourselves – or – equally often, we don’t recognize such opportunities, because we don’t trust ourselves anymore.
It is because we have learned to blindly follow the priorities imprinted in our subconscious by our environment – either by our family, or teachers, the society or a belief system we had acquired by default – because it dominates in the parts of the world we live in, or the times we live in.
What’s more, we have been trained to wish for certain things – things that most of the people around us had been trained to wish for: a better job, a better car, a nice house, a certain type of relationship, more money, more of this, and more of that.
And do you know what wishing for all those things really means?
It means that it is change that we are truly after.
Behind every wish for more – there is a subconscious need for a change in life.
It’s not really the new job or a car or a house that we truly want, although, they too are important. In the end, when we get the things we want – we will still wish for something else.
What we truly want is a real change. We want to change how we live. Not what we have, but how we will feel about ourselves, and our life. That’s what it is about. Being who we are, and living the way we want.
How do we find out who we are?
To begin with, we need to take off all of the labels giving us by society, and which we accepted as truth about ourselves.
The first step is to learn how to be with ourselves, alone, for not less than 20 to 30 minutes a day. Yes. Turn off that TV, leave that bar, club or party earlier, or go to it later. Stop working, overeating, playing video games or whatever it is you are doing to escape the feeling of emptiness. Spend some time with YOURSELF.
Close your eyes, take a deep breath and hold on to the moment of stillness andsilence. Now imagine your world according to your Heart. Not according to the noise of your Mind, the conditioning of your past, your fear of life or what drives your Ego. Imagine your world the way you feel it, deep inside your Heart.
*In the Master Teachings of HOPE, we describe as “Heart” our true inner being: free of any conditioning, limitations, and fears.
The world according to our Heart, is the reality we truly want and need to create for ourselves – if we want to remain happy, reach fulfillment and continue to progress as the consciousness that we are.
If you carefully look at your life, past and present, you might depict exactly the times when you have been living according to your Heart, and when you have forsaken your Own Truth.
When you live your life according to the Vision of your Heart – you feel happy for no reason at all, but just because you enjoy each moment. There is no mistake about that. We all know what real happiness means. It can’t be faked. Our inner “Barometer of Truth” is always present and alert. It tells us when we live according to our Heart, and when we divert from our Own Truth.
What happens if we don’t follow our Own Inner Truth:
It’s not only that we will feel a lack of happiness and purpose in our life. It’s not only that our reality feels more like a burden than a playground for our joy. It’s a life of struggle, whether inner struggle and stress, or problems piling on our path. Obstacles, delays, misfortunes – any possible roadblocks that make us stop in our tracks.
When we live against what’s in our Heart we experience a life of short-lived success. It could be that we are failing in private life, in our relationships, family, or at work, where we cannot achieve lasting success, we keep losing our jobs, or capital.
We feel emptiness and fear as a drive to achieve more materially, instead of reaching for our dream job, doing what we truly love, thriving emotionally and physically.
Our life reflects the state of our Heart.
Remember: Your Heart and Your Life are communicating vessels.
Happy Life equals Happy Heart. Happy Heart equals Happy Life.
Where to start:
Free your Mind of past conditioning, and trust your Heart. It knows well what’s best for you. Don’t be afraid of life, it’s just life – a natural process, which can be harmonious and joyous, if you allow it. There is a simple solution for happiness in life: replace your head/Mind desires with your Heart-driven ones.
Make a commitment to yourself and let your word be the most important asset you have. Treat it like gold and it will bring you gold: each time you do what you say, you train yourself to be reliable. Then you will be able to create what you want in the world.
Don’t be afraid of your Heart. The vision of your Heart is bigger than any of your fears. It is bigger than your conditioned Mind’s vision, and bigger than your subconsciously programmed vision of yourself.
When you trust your Heart, you will find out what you’re capable of, what’s your purpose and what it is that you truly want, and need, to bring to the world.
Pay attention to the opportunities on your path. You don’t have to analyze everything to pieces. Once you get in tune with your inner truth, you can trust your Heart. Follow it and there’ll be no mistakes.
Everything will align with who you are and what you need, to live the life you want: the people you meet, the news you hear, maybe you’ll lose a job that doesn’t support who you are, and will get one more suitable for your needs. Maybe you’ll move to a new place, or continue your education.
Things in your life will shift – to help you become who you are meant to be. And all you need is to be in the flow, and enjoy the ease of your life.
The unique, true Vision of Your Heart is needed and welcome to shine in the world, to make it a better place for you, and for all of us.
Don’t lose the opportunity to be yourself. You are a beautiful human being with your own story to tell. Share it well, and tell it with ease.
REMEMBER ALSO: OUR SUBCONSCIOUS rules 90% of our thinking and behavior. It is responsible for our habits, emotions, automatic reactions, defensive mechanisms etc., which may keep you stuck in unwanted situations in life. You can reprogram your subconscious and get rid of the negative patterns stopping you from Living The Life You Want.
NOTE: The above article is based on a fragment from one of the 9 weekly radio shows “The Life You Want is Yours – with Johanna Kern”, aired on the British Islanders Radio.
Listen to the whole show in the Archives (5th SHOW: FEBRUARY 7, 2016):