How To Overcome The Fear of Loss of Freedom.

//How To Overcome The Fear of Loss of Freedom.

How To Overcome The Fear of Loss of Freedom.

Sharing is caring!

Back to Choose a Topic
Back to How To Overcome Top 10 Fears In Life
Back to Blog

While most of us long for a loving, fulfilling relationship, some people fear intimate relationships.

We tend to think of those who shy away from commitment as being immature or unwilling to make sacrifices.

But what if our thinking about the fear of commitment is all wrong?

What if the true fear is not one of committing, but one of losing?

People who avoid commitments and intimate relationships are most likely afraid that they will “lose themselves” or “lose their freedom”.

When we commit – to another person, to a career, to children, or even to a lease, we are bonding ourselves to something for a length of time. We all know or have heard about people who got “swallowed up” by their jobs or who seem to lose sight of themselves in a marriage.

Losing ourselves is a scary thought. However, it is not inevitable. In fact, in order to maintain our happiness while we are in a relationship – we need to be clear about who we are. We need to know our non-negotiables, state what are the deal breakers for us and hold on to our truths.

Our freedom is very precious to us, but it can also be misunderstood. Sometimes we think we want to live in a boundary-less world – but what we truly want is to know the limitations, and to know that they can be flexible. Complete freedom comes with a sense of disconnection, and often makes us feel lonely. We are not different that way from teenagers, who test the boundaries, to make sure that they are loved and cared about.

We all know that being in a loving relationship is probably the best feeling ever. However, many of us back out of long-term relationships and even marriage due to fear of losing our freedom.

Reluctance to proceed, hesitation and the like do not ultimately preserve freedom. True freedom is not the ability to do what we want when we want, but the ability to listen to our Hearts. Freedom comes through freely making decisions – not through avoiding them out of fear. When two become one in a relationship, and each has a choice to say “yes” – freedom can be realized in such oneness. By all means, one can have a loving, fulfilling relationship without losing one’s freedom.

Step 1: Let the two of you be different.

No two people in the world are the same. All of us are born with different traits, which help us develop our individual personalities as we grow up. We need to always remember that and appreciate the fact that the differences between our partners and ourselves are actually the most important factors in our relationship contributing to our growth. What’s more, isn’t it more enjoyable to spend our time with someone who is not exactly the same?

Step 2: Let the two of you enjoy some personal space.

Any marriage or long-term relationship requires some amount of space to grow and prosper. Remember, we are not talking here about creating distance between the two of you. But calling your spouse all the time to find out what he/she is up to is like putting him/her under a scanner. You both need to feel free to enjoy your days, whether at work, or at home. And then sharing your experiences and telling each other about your day becomes a very precious ritual that you can create for yourselves.

Step 3: Remember that both of you have the right to be imperfect.

That’s right. None of us is perfect. And although it may be tough to accept the so-called “bad habits” of our spouse – it is essential to communicate with your partner about each other’s flaws. Give yourselves a chance to laugh over your imperfections. It may work miracles.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Step 4: Make sure that you both are willing to compromise and meet in the middle.

Both of you will change, no matter what: relationships make us change and grow. To expect only your partner to make the effort is not only unfair but also unrealistic. It is very important for both partners to compromise at some level in order to grow. Some couples unknowingly make a mistake by not doing so. We all progress as we go through life, and relationships are great opportunities to help us make such progress.

Step 5: Enjoy your Freedom to Love.

Celebrate your partner and celebrate your Love. It is a big mistake to take our beloved and our relationship for granted. There are no rules as to how often we want or need to say “I love you”, how often we want to surprise each other with loving gestures, gifts or anything that will express our Love. Love in a relationship becomes our lifestyle, the way we want to enjoy, honor, and cherish each other.

Sharing and celebrating Love that fills us up, is the base of a truly loving relationship.

REMEMBER ALSO: OUR SUBCONSCIOUS rules 90% of our thinking and behavior. It is responsible for our habits, emotions, automatic reactions, defensive mechanisms etc., which may keep you stuck in unwanted situations in life. You can reprogram your subconscious and get rid of the negative patterns stopping you from Living The Life You Want.

Johanna Kern, multiple award-winning author, filmmaker and transformational teacher, has extensive experience in counseling people on life and career paths, health and emotional problems, relationships and family issues, and spirituality.

 

 

Drawing from her experience and knowledge from over 20 years as a successful professional and counsellor, she has designed a special program included in her award-winning book “365 (+1) Affirmations to Create a Great Life”an easy step-by-step method for overcoming subconscious programming and improving any life situation.

She recorded also a series of CDs to be listened to in a state of deep relaxation, while she is guiding the listeners through the process of reprogramming their subconscious.

These or similar tools are very effective and you can find what will suit your preferences and needs. 

For those who wish to have what they truly want in the world of true intimacy and erotic aliveness, Johanna Kern wrote the award-winning book “Secrets Of Love For Everyone: Everything You Need To Know, To Have An Amazing Relationship.” She covers all the bases: the easily digestible 14 chapters range over all the questions, fears and possibilities that people grapple with and fantasize about in their quest for lasting intimacy.  

 Useful Affirmations:

1. “All the wisdom I need, is inside me. All the strength I need, I can find within me. All the love I need, is available to me inside my Heart. I give thanks to myself for being who I am. I accept my wisdom, my strength and the love I feel for life, myself and everything/everyone I care about.”

2. “A new sense of freedom enters my Mind and Heart. I can do anything I want, and become everything I want. There are no limits to how far my Mind can go, as there are no limits to how far my Heart can reach. I accept my magnificence and enjoy the weightlessness of my own being.” – From the award-winning book “365 (+1) Affirmations to Create a Great Life” by Johanna Kern.

And before all:

Relax. All is good. All is just the way it is supposed to be.

 

Back to Choose a Topic
Back to How To Overcome Top 10 Fears In Life
Back to Blog

GET YOUR FREE GIFT! 

SIGN UP FOR JOHANNA KERN’S NEWSLETTER – AND RECEIVE: 

 

The Introduction and Chapter One of the award-winning book “Master And The Green-Eyed Hope”  – recorded by the author!

It is the longest chapter in the book, consisting of 3 parts.

SIGN UP HERE: NEWSLETTER

 

Available from Johanna Kern –  BOOKS, CDs, YouTube Channel: 

(CLICK ON THE PICTURES)

 

 


 JK ENG YOUTUBE 2

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


 

By | 2018-05-13T00:02:36+00:00 November 5th, 2017|How To Overcome Top 10 Fears In Life|