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We develop and gain knowledge in life not only through our own experience but also through observation of how others behave.
We begin to educate ourselves by closely watching others already in early childhood, starting at home, in kindergarten, at school, work etc. – expanding to wider and wider social circles. We learn from others how to survive and manage in life, how to achieve and succeed.
Our subconscious encodes everything like a huge scanner. All our experiences, acquired directly and observed in others, are recorded. And then we duplicate those patterns of behavior imprinted in our subconscious.
Our programming becomes our reality.
Until we become fully aware of our own reactions, behaviors, and programming – we duplicate patterns, automatically playing roles.
It seems that at work we create situations that reflect what we have experienced at home and school – most often in our childhood or youth (although sometimes it mirrors what has recently happened in our private life or is still happening). In this way, we may create at our work a subconscious duplicated model of the structure of our family from our childhood. Now our subconscious applies and observes similar mechanisms of behavior, a sense of hierarchy, reactions, expectations, and ways of fulfilling tasks, etc. in the newly created “business family”. And they indeed, very often are remarkably similar to how things used to work at our home or at school.
There is someone here, just like at home or at school, who fulfills the superior function – the boss, the person with the greatest power (similar to a parent, or a teacher). Then there are the senior executives or co-workers with longer experience (similar to the older siblings, or older students) who sometimes take charge in the boss’s absence. There are also associates equal to our position or having the same seniority – those our subconscious can compare to the siblings closer to our age, or to our classmates. And finally there are those who are just starting out, and we have an advantage over them in the hierarchy of the “business family” because they resemble our younger siblings or the younger kids at school.
In a similar way, our subconscious programmed with acquired patterns sorts out all new situations. The process resembles printing a photo from an old negative, or – in the case of digital recording – making a copy of a saved image.
What follows from this is that the happiness and success of a given company/organization or a whole country depend to a large extent on how the whole team/community works, the whole “family.”
What’s more, the happiness and success of each individual member also depend on the success of the entire team. It’s like in private life: when the whole family is functioning efficiently – their life is happy. It isn’t just that each of the family members makes better use of his/her potential, but the whole family is thriving.
When a team, a firm or a community doesn’t function well as a whole – its success is short-lived, regardless of the efforts, talents, and energy of the people involved.
The basis for every company, organization or a country’s success – is its composition, that is – its members. These are not the products or services that are being offered. They are people. People are the foundation of success. We all already know about this.
That is why some of the most successful companies give so much importance to the continuous training of their managerial staff. Training aimed at reprogramming the subconscious, getting rid of blockages, old patterning, and subconscious behaviors.
Great emphasis is placed on the development of the staff, not only on the professional/technical level – but also emotional and spiritual. It has been recognized that the emotional and spiritual development of the managerial staff is an absolutely indispensable component necessary for the real success of a company. And that is why spending money on such training is not an issue. A lot of managerial staff attend workshops on subjects related to spiritual development. Truly, this is an interesting, more and more common phenomenon of our times.
What we cannot see becomes our greatest enemy.
What we cannot see, controls us from the subconscious. These are our so-called Shadows.
They grow in our subconscious from everything we reject in ourselves or in others.
The name “Shadows” was first introduced by the famous Swiss psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung. The dark rejected energy – that is, everything that we do not accept in ourselves and in others – becomes the building material for our subconscious Shadows.
And these Shadows are very strong. Acting on the subconscious level, they have tremendous power over us, far greater than our emotional fears, than all our bodily needs or ego-driven desires, than our logic or intellectual reasoning.
Our Shadows are stronger than all the above put together.
Without the appropriate “Shadows-Hygiene”, our imprinted negative patterns bring us in the end to failures, disappointments and short-lived success.
In that case, the question is: can we really trust ourselves or others?
However badly someone may have behaved – we need to remember that in most cases their Shadows caused that behavior. Controlled by their subconscious Shadows, people blindly react to those who willingly or unwillingly press their buttons, triggering their old programs by affecting their emotional wounds hidden in the subconscious. And that’s why these people react impulsively, just like robots.
We can observe a lot of examples on this subject. Both at home and at work/school and also everywhere in our society.
And how does this affect somebody’s personal success and the success of a company, an organization or a country?
No company/organization or country can be truly successful when there are no conscious leaders, and their members do not fully use their potential.
The same applies to private life. It is because a life on automatic pilot is usually a life controlled by the subconscious Shadows.
What then determines whether we can use our true potential:
The key to this is the full awareness and willingness to transform what’s hidden – the Shadows. Freed from them, we can create ourselves anew: consciously making our own choices, in all circumstances, instead of reacting blindly when someone or something presses our buttons like in a slot machine.
Individual and collective shadows:
We already know that Shadows are created in our subconscious. Individually – everyone has them. Every unhealed emotional wound becomes a breeding ground for the Shadows that develop over it, hiding in the depths of the subconscious.
Here are some examples of how we could create them:
Let’s say someone was being bullied as a child at school. Well, it happens quite often. This caused a sense of his/her worthlessness that remained with them for years to come.
Now, as an adult, this person either begins to intimidate others – because by social observation he/she learned about the ruthless “law of the fist” – or cannot cope and blames others for his/her own fate, feeling powerless.
In both cases, whether being a merciless tyrant or perpetual victim who won’t fight for a better life – such a person is under the control of the Shadows. They were born in the subconscious of an old emotional wound in order to cover up the persistent low self-esteem.
In other words – our Shadows are trying to protect us so that we won’t get hurt again.
People who are under the control of their Shadow feel better about themselves as strong tyrants, but they can also feel better by playing a different role: the role of the wounded. Because when they can blame someone else for their situation, they do not have to admit to themselves that they don’t know how to deal with it. They don’t want to fight and take charge of their lives. They prefer others to decide what happens to them, because they are afraid that they will not measure up, and that it will further confirm what they feel about themselves: lack of strength or worthlessness.
As we can see from the above example, the Shadows are trying to cover our weaknesses. And it would seem that these “monsters” are doing their job well. Unfortunately, at the same time, they turn us into “robots”, depriving us of real power, and blocking the use of our true potential.
For example, in some dramatic nationwide situations, the Shadows of the governing people do not allow them to contribute to the general welfare of their country. At the same time, the Shadows of the members of the society take over, not allowing them to get out of this predicament. The results are clearly predictable. It’s enough to have a look at what’s happening around the world. It is enough to look around at the conflicts arising in so many places on our planet.
REMEMBER: OUR SUBCONSCIOUS rules 90% of our thinking and behavior. It is responsible for our habits, emotions, automatic reactions, defensive mechanisms etc., which may keep you stuck in unwanted situations in life.
There are Shadows created jointly by family members, a company’s staff, residents of a city/village or citizens of a whole country. There are Shadows typical for a given race, and even the global ones – Shadows that are common for all of humanity on our planet.
We all live in Shadowland. Individual and global.
And now what? Can we deal with the Shadows?
Yes, we can. But we need to put some effort into it. The “Shadows-Hygiene” is the foundation of our happiness and life success. It’s best to start with ourselves. And that’s because the Shadows cannot be destroyed or defeated. They are stronger than us, so they will always win. However, their “bloodthirsty hunger” for doing harm or self-sabotage can be transformed into a powerful, positive force of our subconscious.
The business school at Harvard University has a simple solution for a situation when we get to the end of the path, and it seems that there is no way out. In such a case, we always have two options:
One – we can build a new path. Second – we can discover a new path.
In summary, the way out is always a new path.
Reprogramming our subconscious is not only the quickest way to our goal, but also the most logical.
Is it worth trying to transform our subconscious and unlock our true potential?
It all depends on how much we want to become happier and more effective. How much do we want to get rid of emotional luggage and create lasting success in our life? Without constantly struggling with the same recurring problems in one form or another. Without wasting our time and energy on ventures destined to fail. Without constant disappointment, lack of fulfillment, and subsequent duplication of patterns leading to failures.
We don’t have to give in to our Shadows.
Neither the individual nor the collective ones.
As a human race, we are capable of the most beautiful things. We can change our destiny.
We can become the best version of ourselves.
Never reject, condemn or resist who you have become so far. Honor, accept and respect who you are. Only then will you be able to transmute, transform what you want to change.
You cannot really get rid of some parts of yourself – it isn’t possible. But you can transform them into what you want them to be. Remember that if you do not admit to yourself what kind of unwanted reactions you have, the disowned dark sides of your nature will turn into your Shadows, hiding in your subconscious. They will control your feelings, thoughts and actions. Your life will then become a perpetual carousel of wounds and fears.
Remember that you are not a “bad” person, just because you have been hurt and can not deal with it yourself. We are all wonderful, valuable people who want to heal our emotional wounds and open up to changing our fate. That is our true nature. Even if we make many mistakes, sooner or later we try to find what’s best inside us.
Useful Affirmations for reprogramming your mind:
“I thank my life for supporting my growth, for letting me evolve and enjoy myself more and more. I appreciate every single moment, no matter whether joyful or sad. Each day becomes a new opportunity for celebrating the magic of life.”
“I open myself to the possibility of ignoring limitations and going beyond self-imposed boundaries. I will no longer let my fears keep me from fulfilling my dreams. I am getting ready to step out of the box and unlock my true potential.”– from the award-winning book “365 (+1) Affirmations to Create a Great Life”, by Johanna Kern.
Half of our success at work, in relationships, in fighting a disease depends on your attitude. Negative attitude brings us down and demotivates us. Positive attitude makes us stronger and helps us achieve a set goal. That fact has been scientifically proven so theoretically we all know that but it’s very hard for us to reprogram ourselves from the omnipresent pessimism into optimism. Why is that? Because our brain got used to seeing the world in a certain way.
What can be done to change that? Practice affirmations – the author advises. And she gives us a set of affirmations for each day of a year. She shows us how to teach our brain step-by-step to see the world differently. And, consequently, how to improve our life, career, and even the financial situation and health. That is – how to become happy.
These or similar tools are very effective and you can find what will suit your preferences and needs.
Johanna Kern, multiple award-winning author and transformational teacher, has extensive experience in counseling people on life and career paths, spirituality, health and emotional problems, relationships and family issues.
Drawing from her experience and knowledge from over 20 years as a successful professional and counsellor, she has designed a special program included in her award-winning book“365 (+1) Affirmations to Create a Great Life”: an easy step-by-step method for overcoming subconscious programming and improving any life situation.
She recorded also a series of MP3s and CDs to be listened to in a state of deep relaxation, while she is guiding the listeners through the process of reprogramming their subconscious.
These or similar tools are very effective and you can find what will suit your preferences and needs.