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Johanna Kern’s article “Healing From The Severe Criticism, Judgement, and Bullying” was featured in November 2020 (A edition) in OMTimes Magazine.

Healing from the severe criticism - Johanna Kern

Healing from the severe criticism – by Johanna Kern

 

OMTimes Magazine is one of the leading online content providers of positivity, wellness, and personal empowerment in every English-speaking country – with millions of readers.

 

In these challenging times, we need to help each other to maintain our emotional health. If you, or someone you know, suffer from the aftermaths of criticism, judgment, or bullying – you need to know that you are not alone.

 

Don’t give up on yourself. Keep trying – and you will get there.

The 6 Steps to Healing From The Severe Criticism, Judgement, and Bullying

by Johanna Kern 

Repeated criticism can rob us of zest for life and even send our spirit into a dark corner. The number of suicides sadly keeps growing. Suicide is a global phenomenon, and close to 800 000 people die every year, one person every 40 seconds.

While people who suffer from the aftermath of repeated criticism know that their fear of being judged might be sometimes irrational, they still can’t help perpetuating their anxious thoughts and feelings.

More than 75% of people worldwide experience the first symptoms of social anxiety during their childhood or early teenage years, and 15 million American adults have social anxiety.

It could be related to the fact that many of us may have experienced criticism in our childhood and later, in our early youth, were rejected or ridiculed by other teenagers. That can result in developing deep social anxiety that gets in the way of going to work or doing other everyday things.

As the human species, we are biologically wired to live in groups and communities to survive. Being rejected by our community creates in our subconscious a considerable threat to our survival.

Here are some of the symptoms that keep occurring after being exposed to repeated criticism

On the emotional level:

  • Excessive self-consciousness and anxiety in social situations

  • Intense worry for days, weeks, or sometimes even months before an upcoming social event

  • Fear of being watched or judged by others, people we don’t even know

  • Fear that we’ll embarrass or humiliate ourselves

  • Fear that others will notice that we are nervous

On the physical level:

  • Red face/blushing

  • Shortness of breath

  • Nausea, upset stomach

  • Trembling (including shaky voice)

  • Racing Heart

  • Sweating, hot flashes

  • Feeling dizzy or faint

Behavioral symptoms:

  • Avoiding social situations and limiting your activities

  • Being quiet and hiding in the background to escape notice and embarrassment

  • A need to always bring somebody along with you wherever you go

  • Drinking/smoking before or during social situations to calm down

How to deal with our persistent fear of being judged

You may want to start challenging your negative thoughts, either through therapy or on your own. Yes, it can be done. If others could do it, you can do it too.

Step 1: Identify the automatic negative thoughts you are having while being anxious about social situations.

For instance, you may worry about an upcoming work presentation and think that others will think that you are incompetent and that you are going to blow it.

Ask yourself the following questions:

– Am I sure that I’m going to blow it?

– Even if others realize that I’m nervous, will they necessarily think that I’m incompetent?

Through such logical analyses of the upcoming situation, you may gradually replace the fearful thoughts with more realistic and positive ways of looking at social events that trigger your Fear of Being Judged.

Remember: significant steps consist of small steps.

Step 2: Learn how to control your breath.

Many things are happening in your body when you are being anxious. One of them is shortness of breath, which makes your breath quick and shallow. Such over-breathing throws the oxygen and carbon dioxide levels in your body off balance – causing dizziness, a feeling of suffocation, increased heart rate, and tensed muscles.

Here is what you can do:

Find a comfortable position, sitting with your back straight and your shoulders relaxed.

Take a few deep breaths through your nose.

Next – take a deep breath while counting to 4 – and hold it while counting to 4.

Exhale slowly, counting to 4.

Continue to breathe through your nose that way until you feel that you are calming down.

Step 3: Face your fears.

Now that you know how to replace your negative thoughts with more realistic ones, and you know how to control your breath – it is time to face your fears. Stop avoiding social situations.

Avoidance leads to even more problems.

For instance, if you are scared of socializing with strangers, you might start accompanying your friend to a party. Once you are comfortable with that step – you might introduce yourself to one new person. Then to another one, and so on.

Important: do not try to face your biggest fear right away. When you move too fast – you may end up reinforcing your anxiety. Take one step at a time.

Step 4: Take a class, find a workshop – that teaches self-confidence, public speaking, build assertiveness, and develop communication skills.

You may also want to volunteer to find a small group of like-minded people and while taking part in their activities – focus on the tasks, not on assessing your performance.

Step 5: Adjust/change your lifestyle.

Avoid or limit caffeine intake: Coffee, black tea, caffeinated soda, energy drinks, and chocolate act as stimulants that increase anxiety symptoms. Drink only in moderation and quit or limit smoking. Both alcohol and nicotine increase the risk of having an anxiety attack.

Change is indeed a matter of choice, nothing else.

Step 6: Find out who you are at the bottom of your Heart and let yourself be the best you can be according to your, not anybody else’s terms. You will be happy, and your life will become your Dream Life.

Yes, you thoroughly deserve it. You are worth that, and nothing less.

Don’t give up on yourself.

Keep trying – and you will get there.

You can read this article as PDF from the magazine pages: HERE

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Detailed information about what is consciousness and the Wheel of Creation, how to achieve happiness, develop personal power and what are the ways to create/change our own reality can be found in the books: “Master and The Green-eyed Hope” (basic level) and “Master Teachings of HOPE”  – Volume 1, (advanced level) –  by Johanna Kern

In her book “Master Teachings of HOPE”  – Volume 1, Johanna Kern guides the readers through a specific program designed to expand your vision of yourself, sharpen your intuition and awake some of the dormant areas of your brain. The book also contains twelve never before published Inner Journeys, allowing the readers to discover their Own Truth, and train their brain for new ways of thinking.  

Johanna Kern, transformational teacher and multiple award-winning author (“Master and the Green-Eyed Hope”“Master Teachings of HOPE”, “365 (+ 1) Affirmations to Have a Great Life”, “Secrets of Love for Everyone”, Shadowland: The Legend), many years ago suddenly began to experience regular spontaneous trances in which she found herself in an ancient temple, where she was receiving the Teachings Of Hope from an ancient Master.

The Teachings Of Hope gave her answers to the most important questions occupying human minds for centuries and a new look at all that we hold as sacred – ourselves, our origins and purpose:

From what is the meaning of our existence, to how to achieve true Happiness, Success, Power, Abundance and Freedom from all limitations. From how our thoughts function in the field of energy that we all are a part of, to what is the meaning and nature of life, matter, spirit – and what really is the Wheel of Creation.

She shares her knowledge and helps people to find their own power and progress in all areas of their lives. Her books and audio recordings are available on this site, as well as on Amazon and other major online retailers around the world – in English, German and Polish languages. 

 

 

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