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Johanna Kern’s article titled “Deep Joy: Unconditional Love in Relationships” was printed in the February 2019 edition of “The Edge” magazine.

The magazine has been printed in America since 1992, has over 40K readers monthly, and hundreds of thousands more online. It focuses on topics exploring the Evolution of Consciousness and supports the Holistic Community of the Twin Cities, Upper Midwest and beyond.

Deep Joy:Unconditional Love in Relationships 


The Evolution of True Love

There are as many views and theories of what love is about as there are people who have given a thought to that intriguing and exciting subject. Is love a feeling, an emotion, or a state of mind? Is it the best thing that can ever happen to us, or a disaster which can ruin our life? Or is love a “predicament,” a “situation” or a “mental or emotional disruption” that happens to us?

Questions like these have been perpetuated by numerous writers, poets, performers, other artists, psychologists, philosophers and those who have ever been, or have hoped to be, in love.

Falling in love is not only a sexual passion we feel at the sight or thought of someone we desire. It is the admiration we have for somebody’s specialness. Of course, we often feel the sexual attraction as well, since our bodies go through all sorts of chemical reactions all the time. Yet, the difference between infatuation and falling in love is very clear.

Infatuation is usually described as physical attraction, although it may be also that we are smitten by someone because of some of their traits in a way that is not strictly physical. Falling in love means that we adore the person for whom they truly are on a much deeper level than just their appearance or interesting personality.

Can infatuation lead to falling in love? Maybe. Or maybe not. Infatuation wears off over time, and if there isn’t a deeper connection between two people, there isn’t enough substance in their relationship to make it really fulfilling — not even after they get married or have children. When a couple doesn’t truly appreciate each other, there is no ground for building a relationship based on true love.

To love someone truly and unconditionally is to see that person on a deep level — you see their pure heart, their true being. Love is one of the energies affecting the world, and it is one of the internal processes that we all go through, sooner or later — at one point or another.

Love is an actual energy, with a particular quality and vibration, and it is a part of the wheel of creation that affects us at all times, giving us a chance to evolve.

Opening ourselves to love is one of the biggest and most important steps in our evolution. When we tune into the energy of love, we are able to recognize, appreciate and respect the light we see in every form of life, including our partner.

When we admire who they are beyond their physical appearance or personality traits, we have a quiet pleasant feeling, deep inside. It is a very different feeling than being swept off our feet by somebody’s beauty or personality traits. It is a deep and sincere feeling, which surprisingly translates to joy. There are no “bells” associated with it and we don’t lose our mind, or breath.

When our heart recognizes and admires another heart, we feel quiet Joy.

The evolution of true love in a relationship always includes the gradual exploration and experiencing of the seven aspects of love: joy, acceptance, lowliness (as in being humble), equality, surrender, equilibrium and reconciliation. Although these are the aspects of the Universal love, they do affect us in our own romantic relationships and we learn about them, sooner and later.

When we tune into the energy of Universal love, its seven aspects pamper our romantic love on a daily basis. Our unconditional love will look past our traits, and past our looks. It will know whether our behavior, emotions or any of our patterns are a true expression of who we are, or just our subconscious programming. If we have some emotional wounds or imprinted negative subconscious patterns and need time to heal, we will support each other in that. Mind you, to support someone we love does not mean to sacrifice our own happiness for them. Ruining one’s own happiness in any way is associated with infatuation and obsession, not with true unconditional love.

When we say that true love includes, not excludes, it also means that true unconditional Love supports the well-being of both people involved.

The above article is based on excerpts from Johanna Kern’s book:


Johanna Kern

Johanna Kern

Johanna Kern, multiple award-winning author and transformational teacher, has extensive experience in counseling people on life and career paths, spirituality, health and emotional problems, relationships and family issues.

Drawing from her experience and knowledge from over 20 years as a successful professional and counselor, she has designed a special guide to unlocking the secrets of creating a deeply fulfilling, lasting, successful romantic relationship.  Her award-winning book Secrets Of Love: What You Need To Know To Have An Amazing Relationship” is written in an easy heartfelt style with charming graphic illustrations, and speaks to readers of all ages and relationship backgrounds.


Secrets of Love - Johanna Kern

Secrets of Love – Johanna Kern

“This delightful book covers so many dimensions that it is really a book that is all about ALL about love. It goes into more depth than similar books, and does so in a delightful, reader-friendly style, as Johanna Kern, the author, ranges from search for love, what to do when one finds it, how to nurture it, and what to do when it crashes – or survives! If someone has not found love when one reads this book, it will be a practical road map for the journey!”

– Stanley Krippner Ph.D. – Co-author of “Personal Mythology”; former President of the Association for Humanistic Psychology; a Charter Member of the International Society for the Study of Dissociation; a pioneer in the study of consciousness, having conducted research for over 50 years; recipient of the Award for Distinguished Contributions to the International Development of Psychology and Professional Hypnosis

With these Secrets you can make your Love the best story of your life. 


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Master and the Green-eyed Hope - Johanna Kern

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